what jews think about sex....

Sex is the woman's right, not the man's. A man has a duty to give his wife sex regularly and to ensure that sex is pleasurable for her. He is also obligated to watch for signs that his wife wants sex, and to offer it to her without her asking for it. The woman's right to sexual intercourse is referred to as onah, and it is one of a wife's three basic rights (the others are food and clothing), which a husband may not reduce. The Talmud specifies both the quantity and quality of sex that a man must give his wife. It specifies the frequency of sexual obligation based on the husband's occupation, although this obligation can be modified in the ketubah (marriage contract). A man may not take a vow to abstain from sex for an extended period of time, and may not take a journey for an extended period of time, because that would deprive his wife of sexual relations. In addition, a husband's consistent refusal to engage in sexual relations is grounds for compelling a man to divorce his wife, even if the couple has already fulfilled the halakhic obligation to procreate.

this weekend

Hi. So I am at work right now, just wanting to go home. I am going to Fargo tonight! Yeah. I am excited. I am so excited to see Heidi, and Michelle (if she comes out) tonight. I am also really excited just to spend the weekend with my family. I like easter. :) Going to Old Chicago tonight. Should be great time. Going out with Mom, I think, tomorrow. Yay for mom. Saturday is all family time, and Sunday I am going to church and then leaving early.

So I my "pronoun"'s dad, brother, Nick and I went out to eat last sunday. Bob, the dad, goes, "So, Katie, What are you doing next weekend?" I said, "Oh, going back home to Fargo." He goes, "Oh, well if you will be home in enough time, I would like to invite you over for Easter lunch. We are eating at 2". So I think I will. It would've been one thing if Nick would've asked me, because then I might've said no, but since his dad asked me, I think it might be rude to not go. So, I am going to my "pronoun"s house for easter lunch. I am so excited.

Speaking of my pronoun - things are great. They are really great. We are talking about this summer, what we are going to do, trips we want to take. And it's not like we are just talking about it - we are talking about it so that we can make plans together. For example, He talked last night about going to some - thing - on Memorial day weekend. I said, "oh, are you going to go?" He goes, "depends" "depends on what?" "Depends on what you are doing...." Okay, say it with me, AWWW! :) I have spent a lot of time with him lately. Which is a good thing, really. We went to Cheesecake factory last night, mmm! We had dessert. Of course, not cheesecake, but chocolate cake....

Anyway... Work is going well. I have had a rough week because I haven't gotten a lot of sleep. But I still keep plugging away at work. And, I have tomorrow off so that makes it all worth it.

So I all of the sudden freaked out about the fact that Nick's dad invited me to easter dinner. We've only been seeing each other for about a month. (it will be a month exactly on sunday). Is it too soon to be spending time with his family like that? Spending a holiday with him. It's just flooring me, because Nate would've NEVER done that. Holidays were time to spend with family, but your own not your significant others. I guess I am just not used to that. So maybe it's not too soon... Doesn't mean I am going to freak out less about it.

Anyway. Okay. I think I am going to take off. Have a great day. I think I am just telling myself to have a good day. :) I should be leaving work at like 3 today, assuming it's okay with John. for SURE, no later then 4, which means I should get up to Fargo at like 7. Heidi, I will call you when I get to Barnesville area, if not before that, so that we can figure out where to meet up. I am excited for tonight. Happy (well, belated) Birthday!! :)